What should you do when he hasn’t said those three desirable words?
Tips and Tricks to Bring Magic to your Ears
Perhaps I should remind you that you shouldn’t be so worried if your man has yet to say, “I love you.” Maybe he’s actually saying it but you just aren’t hearing it. Think back to Men Are From Mars-Women Are From Venus. You might like to say, “I love you” but your partner might just prefer to show you. Or he may just say it differently than those 3 special words.
We’re going to cover it all by looking into ways your guy may be telling you he loves you without verbalizing it, and proven tactics to gently guide him to actually say it. A win-win for you!
Ways that he is saying, “I Love You” without saying it
He Helps You Out
Relationship experts remind us that guys are hands-on doers. They like to fix things to show their appreciation and feel useful. If you find your man is always helping you out with your do-it-yourself, or DIY, projects around the house, that may just be his way of showing you how much you mean to him.
He Does Your Dirty Work
If your guy is taking out your trash and cleaning your bathroom, chances are pretty good he loves you. You can be rest assured he’s not doing it because he likes it. Try opening your mind to read a little more into his actions and not just his words.
He Asks for Your Help or Opinion
Whether he wants your opinion on a disagreement with a colleague at work or he wants you to come along to pick out a gift for his parent’s 50th wedding anniversary, he’s showing you he loves you. He’s asking your opinion because he values it and thinks you’re special.
Can’t Keep His Hands Off You
Sometimes it can get a bit much. But when your man is kissing and hugging you everywhere, that’s his way of showing you off the world. In his head he is staking claims on you and that he loves you dearly. If he didn’t want to be with you he would keep his hands to himself – period.
You’ve Had The Introduction To His Family
He doesn’t have to say, “I love you” if you’ve had the introduction to his family. You can bet your bottom dollar the minute you’ve been introduced to his mother she will be red hot on his case about having grandchildren. Unless a guy is in love with you, he is not going to go there.
You Crossover Into His Inner Circle
If he has introduced you to his friends, you’ve earned “he loves you” by default. A guy that makes the effort to include his girlfriend in this part of his life is definitely in love.
Strategies to get your man to say, “I Love You”
Tactic One – Breakfast in Bed
What better way to a man’s heart than through his stomach! The best route to capture the undivided attention of your man is to feed him in bed – yes, that too! All you’ve got to do is wake up about an hour before you’ve got to get up and make him all his favorites. How can he resist not saying it?
Tactic Two – Give Him Freedom
The last thing any guy wants is his girl keeping tabs on him 24/7. I promise you that will drive him away. Let him do his thing and text or call you to see if you are available to meet up. What this does is show him you are a confident gal that wants him but doesn’t need him to survive. That’s totally sexy for a guy. It will drive him full speed ahead to fall head over heels for you and utter those three words that are music to your ears.
Tactic Three – Learn to LOVE Sports
I’m not pulling your leg here ladies. If you seriously want your guy to tell you he loves you, it’s wise to get on top of sports – and him too if you like! If you don’t know anything about sports now is a great time to learn. And if you really do hate the idea of drinking beer and sitting on a couch all day watching a bunch of tight-ends running around – then you need to re-focus only on the tight-ends – which can’t be all that bad!
Bottom line is…A girl that is intelligent when it comes to sports is a score. And a chick that’s into sports is golden. The choice is yours. Really depends how badly you want him to say, “I love you.”
Tactic Four – Don’t Grill Him
When your boyfriend has been out a little late with his friends or he forgot to mention he was going out altogether, whatever you do, make sure you DO NOT interrogate him. Particularly if he’s a little bit sloshy. You just don’t want to open that door. Be supportive and interested but learn when to let him do his thing, when to ask questions, and when to keep your mouth shut. Seriously…no guy is going to tell his naggy-griller girlfriend he loves her.
Tactic Five – Support Him Unconditionally
If you really want your man to whisper sweet, “I love you” in your ear, you’ve got to show him first. By supporting him unconditionally whether he’s right or wrong you are seeping deep into his soul and pushing him to naturally tell you he loves you.
Nobody’s perfect and the more you show your guy that you love the good, bad, and downright ugly in him, the sooner he’s going to say, “I love you.” If you want to hear it that badly you will do whatever you have to.
Never forget it truly is the little things that count in a loving relationship. Women tend to communicate with emotions and words, whereas guys like to get physical. If he buys you a screwdriver for your birthday he’s definitely deeply in love with you. Be sure you are excited to spoil him and show him just how into him you are by giving him his space but also going out of your way to like what’s important to him. Treat him like a king and you will soon be his queen.
“I love you” is hugely powerful. Just remember you can say it plenty of different ways.