Being shy or introverted can sometimes keep you from talking to people. But it doesn’t have to stop you from dating women. Nothing is wrong with being shy. It’s the way you are. In life, being shy is often a very good defense mechanism. Introverted people won’t easily step up and do crazy, spontaneous things, not as long as there are other people to witness a possible mistake. Shy people don’t like other people looking at them or draw attention. For that reason you can find them in places were the attention level is low. Shy people tend to find reasons not to do things. They often over think their steps and end up not taking any risk at all.
How to tell if you’re shy or introverted
Don’t like crowds?
Do you feel your energy level dropping when you’re in a crowd? Does it feel like all these people drain your energy? Is there too much going on to take in and observe? Shy people often try to overlook situations and be in control. If you’re surrounded by hundreds of people, it feels as if you lost control. You’d rather have a comfortable and spacious spot for yourself.
Decisions, decisions, …
What should you do? Do you have difficulties making decisions? Overthinking is a common issue for making adequate decisions. If you take notice of everything that could possibly go wrong or be wrong, you’ll never do anything. It keeps you from living your life to the fullest, because you spend your like thinking about all possible outcomes. It’s an energy draining occupation and you will always find more reasons not to do something then there are to do it.
Are you “quiet”?
You don’t like talking in groups. You often think about what would be a good thing to say and then don’t say it anyway. People have described you as “quiet” since you were a child.
How shy men can be successful at dating women.
First of all, being introverted is not a bad thing or something that women don’t like. The biggest struggle for shy people is walking towards someone they like and then talk to them or ask them on a date.
You don’t have to change who you are, of course. You just need some temporary courage to overcome your fear and step up.
Build up self esteem
Make sure you feel good about yourself. If you can like yourself, other people can like you too. A good way to do this is working out. People who exercise are in a better shape, their body looks good and they feel better. And another plus: the gym is a good place to get to know other people and meet women. An interesting hobby is also a nice subject to talk about once you’re talking to women.
Build your social life
You’re probably on Facebook, like the rest of us, but there is more to social than Facebook alone. You should interact with people in real life to gain comfort in talking to people. Finding a hobby is a good way to be more social. And I’m not talking about hobbies like collecting stamps, because that won’t get you any further away than your own living room. Find a hobby where you can join a group of enthusiastic people and share the fun. Being part of a club or group is a good way to find friends and meet people.
Say yes a little more! Stop doubting and looking for excuses. There are always a million reasons not to do something. One reason to do it is enough. And the best reason for jumping right into an adventure is fun. There’s only one life that we know of and you could just as well have some fun while living it. You will discover that once you stop thinking about the bad things that can happen, your life will be much richer and you’ll enjoy it more.
The first impression is crucial. You don’t want to look like a fashion guru, but there are some things you must consider. The easiest way to dress appealing is to watch other people and do the same or figure out what makes you feel comfortable. If you’re having trouble with choosing fashionable clothing, store sales assistants can help you find the perfect outfit. When you meet a woman, most likely the next day you won’t remember what she was wearing, but she will still know after years. Impress her!
Although it may sometimes seem that women like men that are spontaneous and extroverted, they might just as well like a quiet and shy guy. All you need is the courage to walk towards her and start talking. If you have something interesting to say, you’re more likely to succeed. Women (and men alike) will run as fast as they can once you start whining. It’s a good idea to have a good topic in the back of your mind. The first few phrases and words you’ll say, decide if she wants to explore you further or not.
What to say and what not to say…
Too much too soon
Don’t start telling the story of your life. Women just want some triggers to know if you’re interesting. Your life story is something you might want to talk about once you’ve been dating a few months, but it’s not a good pick up line. The same counts for talking about your ex-girlfriend.
Ask about her …
Women like a man who listens to what they have to say. Showing interest in everything about her, makes you the perfect partner. Listen to what she says and then ask questions about that. If she keeps talking to you, she might get thirsty and accept a drink from you!
Forget about the cheap pick-up lines
Did it hurt when you fell down from heaven? These cheap sentences are very unlikely to do the trick.
Don’t be desperate
Women don’t like men who seem desperate and hopeless. Just be confident. You’ll probably get rejected every once in a while, but that doesn’t have to stop you from getting out there. You wouldn’t say yes to every woman either. There’s plenty of fish in the sea and the perfect girl is out there waiting to meet you, just as much as you’d like to meet her.